Shepherdstown United Methodist Church
Tuesday, June 25, 2019

L.I.F.E. Discussion

Allowing our kids to fail?

I think it's easy to let our kids fail when the stakes are low.  For example: playing a video game, tying their own shoes, using a fork to try and get food to their mouth.  But when the stakes are high, I find it much more difficult to hush the "here, let Daddy help you" instinct.  Certainly we won't let our children fail when their safety is in jeopardy (jumping on the couch near a hard table, going down the steps on their own when they haven't done it before, running out onto the street to get a ball, etc.)  But I think there are times where it's best to let them do the trial and error process.  Examples of that might be when they do their homework and get it wrong or they study for a test but they don't have good study habits yet and they don't get the best grade.  Then, after the "failure" you can work with them on how to improve upon the effort and find success at the next opportunity.

Posted by Brian 2013-12-04 14:37:32


I saw this article, kind of seemed to fit right in! A lot of our discussion centered around school, but sports is another great example.

Posted by kkapp 2013-12-12 08:03:42

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Sports article

Good article!  As an avid sports fan and competitor, I'm sure it will be tough when my kids start playing sports.  I'll want to get down on the field and help them succeed.  I'm sure it's very hard to be a spectator when your kid is a participant.

Posted by Brian 2013-12-12 08:16:32